Jake Jones

Logan James

@beautifulduck737517 · Jan 12, 2026 5:35 am

i loved someone who i knew was gay

i dated someone for 4 years and knew from the start he was gay and wished he was a woman. before we dated he identified as transgender and had also been sleeping around with a lot of men. he then completely switched up and said it was a phase and he’s not a woman and doesn’t actually like men ?
i loved him and wanted the love he said he had for me to be true. i could never trust him which made me do stupid things. when i would ask questions i was shut down immediately. why i stayed for 4 years don’t know.
i feel disgusted with the things we had done together. things i never wanted to do, but did it anyways to make him happy. i don’t know why i didnt try harder to express how uncomfortable things made me. my first partnership has been soiled by a closeted man.
i never felt feminine with him, i never felt pretty and safe. i always felt like i was the man in the relationship and it genuinely ruined my self esteem. i felt like it was my fault that he was so disconnected with the feelings of our relationship, so detached all the time but it was never about me it was just him. he never felt present, ever.
its hard for me to speak about this to friends and family because i feel so much sh

Diego Carpentier

@ticklishsnake273824 · Jan 12, 2026 12:50 am

I haven't had a male friend in over 5 years

I'm M25 right now.
The truth is that throughout my life I’ve always had more female friends than male ones. When I ask myself why, I think it’s because I grew up surrounded by female figures: I have no male cousins, only female ones, so everyone my age in my family was a woman, and my mother was a housewife and therefore the one who raised us while my father worked.
At school, my group was made up only of female friends.
I don’t know I’ve had male friends, but their communication codes feel very alien to me, I dont feel comfortable . Also, my last two male friends… one was cheating on his girlfriend and I ended up falling out with him because I told her, and the other was a client of prostitution.
With this I don’t intend anything more than to share an anecdote from my life, and I’m not trying to imply anything beyond the idea that early stages can influence a person and in fact, I think all of this has affected me much more negatively than positively.