Gonneke De Rover

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It’s Friday, so it’s time to watch the throwback Top of the Pops on BBC4. Was anyone here ever the audience for TOTP, or know someone who was?

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Gonneke De Rover

@bigcat537357 · Jan 12, 2026

My married neighbour is starting to become obsessed with me. How do I stop this from escalating?

So my neighbour, who is married has a crush on me and it seems like it's affecting her marriage considering she was caught staring at me from her window by her husband while I was gardening for an hour(I saw the outline of her body from the window) and it led to a fight which I heard from across the street. She had her mother in law come by and she was crying outside while continuing to intensely stare at me while I was gardening. This situation is starting to weird me out. I now avoid her at every moment. I think she's just struggling with a dissatisfying marriage and raising hyperactive kids and probably sees me as an escape. Her Husband seems depressed. And it doesn't help that I'm ignoring her every move, which as an attractive woman is probably something she's not used to. I assume I'm not her first object of limerance.
But still, I really want to avoid triggering neighbourhood drama as I'm planning on moving out.
If I'm outside for more than an hour, I feel like she's staring at me. Her Husband hates me.

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Gonneke De Rover

@bigcat537357 · Jan 10, 2026

I’m learning to sit with my feelings instead of rushing to change them

It’s uncomfortable, but also kind of grounding. Not everything needs an immediate solution

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